How is it Christmas already? I swear it gets faster and faster every year. It’s the season for joy, love and good cheer right? It can also be a time of depression and anxiety for many of us; our confidence can slip away. Our mission is to lift your spirits and help you feel fabulous for the holidays and beyond.
Instead of saying, ‘I hate my thighs’, tell yourself: thick thighs save lives. Own those curves girlfriend! Be proud of your thighs. They’re strong and they give you the ability to do the things you love. Some people aren’t that lucky.
Don’t lose yourself
When one of your girlfriends has a moan about her appearance, don’t attempt to one-up her. Compliment her instead. Celebrate yourselves and focus on the positives. You’ll be surprised at how much better you both feel. (best practiced over a glass of prosecco or two).
Take a moment to think about three things you like about your body, or three compliments other people have given you (or both! The more the merrier). Write these down, preferably on post-it notes, and stick them on your mirror. Every morning they’ll be a positive reminder of self love and help boost your spirits when that nasty body anxiety threatens to kick in.
Start small in the body pampering department by simply wearing your favourite perfume every day. You’ll be surprised at how fabulous you feel. Build simple self care rituals into your day to day life, from exfoliating and moisturising your body, painting your fingers and toes, to treating yourself to a luxury massage. Bliss.
I’ve fluctuated in dress sizes over the years and have been a UK 10-12 to an 18-20. What’s the one thing that has always helped my confidence? New lingerie. The power of lace compels you! Freshen up your drawers and indulge in some delightful new delicates. Is there a subscription service out there that can deliver beautiful monthly undies? Oh yes!
What’s the fastest way to enhance body confidence I hear you asking? Well, walk, stand or sit up straight! Simple. It will make you look taller, slimmer and feel more confident. Bonus.
Give zero fucks
Society tells us we aren’t good enough. Marketers and advertisers want you to buy their products so you can finally feel ‘good enough’ or ‘accepted’. The truth is, you’re already good enough and the sooner you believe it and don’t care what others say is ‘beautiful’, ‘healthy’ or ‘fashionable’, the happier you’ll be.
Babe, you’re pretty special and it’s important to look after your mind, body and soul. You are a warrior and you’re capable of amazing things. Body Positivity isn’t just for the holidays, it’s for life! Learning to love yourself and f#ck what others think needs some work. Remember, you can’t please everyone and there’s no point in wasting precious energy trying to.
I hope these tips help you on your journey to a more positive mindset and to believe in yourself and your self worth. You ARE beautiful.
Why don’t you treat yourself (or someone who needs a confidence boost) and subscribe to lingerie happiness today. I wish all of you a very Merry Christmas and look forward to seeing you in the New Year. Let’s smash 2020!
Row – Founder of Project Lingerie xx